Jennifer Blake: The Gifts of Imperfection

The Gifts of Imperfection

April 15, 2013

I have loved Brené Brown since I came across her TED talks. Check out her talk on vulnerability and her talk on listening to shame. I would also highly recommend checking out her blog

I picked up a two of her books a few months ago. I snagged Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection. I decided to start with reading The Gifts of Imperfection because it is her older one. This is NOT a self-help book, I swear. It is insightful and so incredibly good. I think I have a sticky note on almost every page of parts I loved or wanted to go back to. The book is all about letting go of who you're supposed to be and embracing who you are. 


Guys, it is so good. I can't even explain how happy I am that I read it. I thought I would share some of my favorite passages from the book. 

"Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It's going to bed at night thinking, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging." 

I LOVE that passage. I let my to-do list define me every single day, the more I get done the better I feel about my self and about my day...how awful is that? I should be enough even if I don't finish a single thing on my list. This has been a goal of mine lately, slowly but surely.

Another passage that really resonated me was about perfectionism  I am a complete type A perfectionist through and through. 

"Perfectionism is NOT the same thing as striving to be your best: Perfectionism is a shield. Perfectionism is the beliefe that if we are perfect we can minimize judgment, blame, pain, and shame. 
Perfectionism is NOT self-improvement: Perfectionism at its core is about trying to earn approval and acceptance. Perfectionism is saying I am what I accomplish. Self-improvement is self-focused and wondering how you may be able to improve. 
Perfectionism is addictive because we invariably do experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe we weren't perfect enough."

Are you a perfectionist? I am my own worst critic. I am also the worlds worst person at taking compliments. I have been trying to be more laid back and let go of some of my perfectionism, school is certainly where my perfectionism comes out the most, but it definitely affects all aspects of my life. 

The last passage I want to share with you is at the end of the book: 

" The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows." 

How awesome is that quote? We let negativity and darkness overshadow our joy on a daily basis. How many times has something good happen, but then you immediately think of how something could go wrong or how you messed up doing something else? I certainly know I do it. Lets learn to embrace the joy and the light together shall we? 

If you like the passages I shared with you, go grab a copy of her book. And seriously, if you have not watched her TED talks, get on it!!! 
xox

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